Dr. Roy Smith has worked for over 35 years as a psychologist/counselor to men and their families. Pennsylvania Counseling Services, which he began out of his home, now offers a variety of counseling services in eight counties in Central Pennsylvania. Roy is also an ordained minister with the Evangelical Church Alliance. He developed Knights of the 21st Century, a ministry that produces men’s DVD/curriculum programs to help men grow and learn how to lead more effectively, contributing to the overarching goal of positively changing our culture. Roy has written several books in the area of men’s issues, including Bull, Being God’s Man, Manhood Journey (Volumes 1-5), Why Not Try To Hit The Real Target—Men and You’re Not Dead Yet, and has consulted on and written several women’s DVD/curriculum series. He has a master of divinity degree and a master’s and a doctorate degree in clinical psychology. Roy is married to Jan, who is also a psychologist; they have two children and one grandson.
Presently, there is a big identity crisis among males regarding what a man is. There is no clear transition from childhood to manhood, and the culture defines men simplistically. As a result, many males are divorced from themselves, bored, passive, and violent. The Church has difficulty attracting men to Christ and involving them positively in this form of community. This foundational crisis has amazing repercussions that are seen daily in the therapist’s office. Marriages are breaking up as many males choose addiction, lack emotional intimacy, and often rely on the phrase, “I don’t know.” Children lack male role models as a cycle of rejection is passed down generationally. The Church and the Christian counselor can be a great solution to this cultural entropy if we can learn to involve men in ways that uniquely meet their needs, help them understand how God designed them, and encourage change. God wants godly men who honor Him.
In this seminar, we will look at the strengths men have to offer and how to mobilize them into becoming who God designed them to be. In doing so, men will learn to deal with the common challenges they experience daily and impact the world in positive ways. This seminar presents a model that will assist both counselors and church leaders to help the males they are working with develop true manhood.
There are several unique challenges that each man must overcome in order to become who God created him to be. A natural defensiveness works against his efforts to develop his full potential, establish supportive relationships, live a satisfying life and achieve his dreams. To live a life of meaning and productive contribution, a man must fight against, adapt to and learn from various environmental challenges. He must develop self-awareness regarding what is occurring within him, a willingness to risk by initiating action to make things better and a responsibility for his choices. Through exhibiting the characteristics of the Ultimate Man, Jesus Christ, men are strengthened in their role as husband, father, friend, coworker and missionary.
Men are the rebar in the concrete that holds up the structure of an effective church ministry. Often misunderstood if not ignored, a male’s relationally challenging responses have caused many in the church to not develop the vital resource of a men’s ministry. Women and children have also been harmed as the representative of Jesus they were dreaming of is often a no-show. This seminar will look at several specific challenges to reaching out and developing men spiritually. We will look at some practical guidelines to magnify your effort with these significant participants in God’s Kingdom.
Many fathers are relationally isolated and emotionally disconnected, leaving them at a loss for how to lead boys into manhood. Boys are left to their own devices, and turn to the world for its faulty definition of manhood. They soon find themselves acting out, bored, passive, and violent, just like so many other males in our culture. This workshop will address the culture’s attack on boys, the impact of biology on boys learning style, mentoring and educational principles to help boys develop into honorable men and concrete action steps moms and dads can take in the developmental process of boys.